7.0 Keeping healthy: Looking after you

When a loved one is missing expect to experience a range of reactions and emotions.

Not everyone reacts or feels in the same way at the same time.

It is helpful to identify the effects you experience. 

     Why ?

Because you have permission to feel and express yourself.

7.1 Expect to experience some, or all of these Psychological effects:

. Slowed thinking

 . Confusion

. Disorientation

 . Memory problems

. Flashbacks

 . Nightmares

. Poor attention span

 . Difficulties problem solving

. Loss of control

 . The 'what if's'

7.2 Expect to experience some, or all of these Emotional effects:

. Fear

. Anger

. Frustration

. Guilt

. Blame

. Anxiety or panic

. Depression

. Sadness

. Irritability

. Numbness

. Withdrawing

. Wanting to hide

. Helplessness

. Hopelessness

7.3 Expect to experience some, or all of these Physical effects:

. Nausea

 . Tremors

. Chills

 . Sweating

. Lack of co-ordination

 . Palpitations

. Chest pains

. High blood pressure

. Headaches

. Sleep disturbance

. Diarrhoea

. Dizziness

. Change in appetite

. Startled responses

7.4 Communicate with family and friends:

. Allow yourself to feel the pain and be upset or angry

. Talk openly and honestly with people close to you about what

you feel and what you are going through

. Get sleep, eat nutritious meals regularly and exercise lightly

. Retain routines and avoid making life changing decisions

. Be careful of using alcohol or drugs to alleviate pain

. Don't  blame yourself for what has happened

. If you need professional support get it from your own family

doctor or contact registered professionals 

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